Send a letter to my youngest brother on 2/6/2008.
31/5/2007
Please refer to the incident that happened on 26/5/2008 which is all due to misunderstanding.
Your wife was eating pineapple in the room and you ask her to go to the kitchen to eat, instead of eating it in the room. When she refused, you tried to pull her out leading mother to think that both of you were fighting in the kitchen. She scolded your wife out of concern for you.
Mother is 80 yrs old while your wife is only 22 yrs old. The age gap is very wide and so is the thinking. She still has the teenager mindset and therefore you have to play a very important role in solving any future misunderstandings.
There are some issues in which I need to remind you:
Please do not keep buying things for your wife, buy something for mother also,
I can see that she is jealous in the sense that her son whom she is staying with for 40 years and now he is taken away by an unknown person (to her) suddenly. You bought shoes, bags, dresses for your wife; you did not buy anything for her. (Did you buy anything for mother?)
You brought your wife out, and leave mother at home alone. She is very lonely at home she cannot go anywhere further, unlike in Selegie house, she always go missing from the house. May be you can ask her to come along with you, you know the answer is NO. At least if you ask her she will feel better. (sometimes you can bring mother and your wife go downstairs to have dinner together)
Please take note of these points. This is what I had observed.
Your wife was eyeing a dress from one the advertisement from Straits Times, she approached to you to buy for her, you refused and told her that the dress was not suitable for her. She shouted in mandarin “ WO Yao, Wo Yao”. This action has worried mother. She has the impression that she always demands things from you. Because your earning power is not high, she is worried that your savings be used up in a very short time. (Mother told me that).Spend your money wisely
Please always bear in mind that new house was purchased by our joint effort (Father, mother, your 4 siblings and you.). It was not purchased by you alone.
(Father paid the rental fee initially and I paid the installment when we purchased the house in Selegie). The house in Selegie was sold and we used the money to purchase the new house.
So remember, do allow cooking in the new house when there is a gathering, especially Chinese New Year Eve.
Your wife is not working, you are going to start a family soon, in the case when you are unwell and may not be able to drive on the road, and your income will be compromised. Please do upgrade yourself, widen your scope and your knowledge. It is good that you find a stable job for yourself; at least there are medical benefits to cover you and your family.
If you have any questions or problem please bring up for discussion, we will try our best to help you.
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
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